What Do You Look For In a Man?

Do you want someone exciting and dynamic . . . or are you more comfortable with a steady, reliable guy?

Do you want a high-achieving spouse and all that involves . . . or one who values his time off and has other interests? The sensitive type who really listens . . . or the fun-loving extrovert?

The following paragraphs may help you get in touch with those character traits that will gladden your heart . . . and those you just can't stand. We're all different. What one woman likes or doesn't even notice may drive another woman crazy.

Read the paragraph for your Sun and, if you know your Moon placement, read that paragraph, too.


ARIES

You are strong and independent and it's best to make that clear right from the start so there won't be any hurt feelings later on. Your kind of man has his own interests and activities, and doesn't need you by his side every minute.

You need time and space to pursue your dreams and interests. If he tries to stand in your way, you feel controlled and restricted, and you just hate it!

Your partner must understand that you don't mind following the rules . . . as long as you get to make them . . . and then you get to change them later, if you want. Realistically, though, maybe you could negotiate on the big items. But a man who insists on doing things his way can only mean trouble.

Even though you want things your way, you prefer a man who will stand up to you and not be a pushover. You enjoy a 'friendly fight' now and then to clear the air.

Most of all, though, you need excitement to feel really alive. Don't marry a man who bores you, even if everything else is great. It's up to both of you to keep your relationship exciting and new.

TAURUS

If he is constantly leaving you home to party with the boys, or if he is continually dragging you out with the gang, he's probably not for you. You're a homebody at heart and are content with just the two of you by the fire. If he always has places to go and people to see, it's uncomfortable for you.

If stays out late and doesn't even call, you'll eventually go nuts. You're dependable . . . and you expect others to be dependable too. You need to know that he can nurture, love, or be constant to something in his life mainly you!

A high-pressure life is hard on your nervous system. On the other hand, peace and quiet, an occasional loving massage, a good meal, a little chocolate, maybe a pot of tea or a glass of wine, and no one is more content than you.

Unpaid bills leave you despondent. If your loving hubby changes jobs a lot and is often out of work, you may be in love, but you'll never be truly happy.

You are an uncomplicated soul and your needs are simple.

If they are met, you can put up with a lot of things you aren't crazy about. If they are not met, you will endure it for a long time but eventually you will have had enough. And then you're done. Period. The end.

GEMINI

When you talk, he listens, asks questions, and remember the names of your friends. You enjoy a witty conversationalist, but one who lets you do your share of the talking. Communication is your specialty and you have a lot to say!

You are more interested in a person's sense of humor and intelligence than in their physical appearance. Sharing ideas and thoughts is key to building a strong, interesting life with someone. Going places together and learning new things is very important to your happiness.

If you get a guy whose idea of a fun evening is renting four videos, he might as well get used to ordering pizza for one. You enjoy a movie as much as anyone, but staring at a TV screen all night just doesn't do it for you. You need to get out and do things and be around people.

You are a flirt. If you have a possessive jealous partner, you feel stifled and he feels threatened. You require many friends of both sexes and he will just have to realize it doesn't mean you don't love him.

CANCER

You have a tender and sentimental heart, and if you're lucky, you'll find someone who respects that. A man who would give you the "It's-me-or-the-cat" ultimatum is not for you, no matter what his other traits.

A man who lavishes time and attention on his dog, however, shows he has feelings for something besides himself. You want to know that he can be constant to something in his life that he can attach.

When you feel the need to be alone, he won't make a big deal about it. He doesn't have to understand your moods, just allow you some space to yourself. Then you can come back to the relationship renewed. Some men are confused and threatened by that.

You need someone who understands that home and family is everything to you. He won't ask you to pack up and move across the country. You tend to cling to whatever is dear to you, be it person, familiar place or cherished possession.

Deep down, you want someone to take care of you. You love to feel secure in your world. Money helps . . . always.

LEO

You need a man you can be proud of. If your friends and family think he's a loser, you better find someone else, because it will hurt you when they don't respect him and it will eventually come between you.

You need a man who is proud of you and tells you how wonderful you are. He wants to show you off to his friends. He wouldn't think of criticizing you in front of others. Heaven help the man who ridicules you or makes you look foolish.

You want to feel loved and adored by him. If he forgets your birthday, or doesn't make it special, it will take all year for you to forgive him.

Your guy will be warm-hearted and generous, because you can't stand stinginess or pettiness. And being able to laugh together keeps problems in perspective.

If he often breaks dates with you because he's working late, or he is always with the guys watching sports, steer clear. For a Leo, being ignored is worse than just about anything. You need someone who is not too busy to have fun-with you!

VIRGO

In order for you to respect your partner, he must value his work like you value yours. It's not the material things that money can buy. Your work is important to you and that's that!

You like a clean, well-organized place to live. Don't even think of trying to co-habit with a slob; picking up after someone or living in a messy place will make you very, very cranky! And the guy who doesn't like to shave on the weekend? Or shower before sex? Yuck!

Your tastes are simple and understated, but refined. Coarseness and vulgarity offend you. See that loud, practical jokester over there? Leave him for your Sagittarius girlfriend. You go for the quiet and steady guy. You will not enjoy life with someone who decides one month to spend the rent money on a cruise, or worse yet, gambles it away.

Someone who helps bring out your personality would be good for you. You can be timid about expressing emotions and you underestimate your attractiveness and appeal.

LIBRA

Don't marry a stay-at-home man. Leave him for that nice Taurus girl over there. You need someone who enjoys getting together with friends and acquaintances like you do. You don't like crowds, but you love small parties. And you just won't go if you have to go alone.

Compliments are nice. You love to be told you look great. You have a sense of style and design. You know just what to wear and how to wear it. A guy who isn't similarly well-dressed and attractive just won't cut it. In other words, that sincere guy in the sweatshirt with the goofy-looking hair cut is out!

You are ruled by Venus, planet of love and harmony, and you like people to get along. You hate fights or disagreements. Even loud noises bother you!

A man who is somewhat laid back and easy to get along with is a good choice for you. You are not going to be happy with someone who raises his voice or picks a fight. Someone who is subtle and polished, yet interesting, is more your type.

SCORPIO

It goes without saying: a sexual connection is essential for a solid union it's a physical affirmation of your love. If the sexual spark is missing, you're never going to make the full love connection.

He doesn't have to super-attractive. Looks aren't as important to you as that special chemistry you must have with a man

You enjoy someone with a little mystery. You don't want to know everything about him on the first date. On the other hand, if he doesn't call for days or disappears occasionally, he might not be dating only you. Wrong! Your guy must be 100% loyal and faithful. If he betrays you, he'll only do it once.

You don't feel comfortable with someone who probes for personal information and quizzes you about your background. You prefer to maintain some privacy, even in the closest of relationships. Your best friends don't even know everything about you.

Leaving some things unsaid is your style.

SAGITTARIUS

When you are with someone who's impassioned about something, it connects you with your own sense of excitement. It's the energy and the thrill that makes life worth living for you.

You need someone who doesn't take things too seriously. You are very open and direct and have a straightforward way of expressing yourself. If you are with someone who is too sensitive and takes offense easily, it will be hard for both of you.

You like to take off and go places at a moment's notice and you need a man who wants to go with you. You love to travel and see new places and he must also, or at least not care if you go with friends.

You can't stand nit-picky men. You don't want someone who expects you to account for every minute or every dollar.

CAPRICORN

This is the sign that often goes for someone older, or who acts older. That's because you Capricorns are clever enough to know that reliability and maturity in your partner are important to your long-term happiness and you're always thinking long-term.

Casual, superficial relationships just aren't for you and if you indulge in them, you won't be happy. You are somewhat old-fashioned when it comes to love and marriage.

You want someone from a good family; not for the money (although that's nice) but because you respect quality in people as in everything else.

You need a man who wants to build a life with you, who knows how to work hard and wants to save for the future. When you find the right man you will have found mutual respect and a deep, genuine, lasting love. You don't want to settle for less.

AQUARIUS

Your perfect mate starts out as your friend, and is still your friend after many years of marriage, if things are good. That doesn't mean you don't still need lots of other friends, including perhaps your ex and your ex's relatives.

The average marriage and its rules isn't of much interest to you. You need to create your own unique relationship and do it your way. You are someone who can handle a complicated arrangement. There may be a difference in age, race or background. Maybe you don't live in the same town. Don't let people tell you it can't work. It can . . . it just might be unusual.

You have to have a certain amount of freedom in your everyday life. You are interested in different and unusual things and you need someone who lets you be you. You can handle the unexpected better than most.

You have an opinion on everything and you like to express it!

PISCES

Pisces women can give too much. You are so empathetic and understanding that you sometimes get involved with a man because he needs you. Beware of the tendency of yours to want to bandage all the skinned knees in the world. It can be wonderfully fulfilling in the right place, but it can get you in no end of trouble if you try to do it in a relationship. It could encourage weakness and dependency in him, and be a great burden for you.

You will be happiest with a sensitive, gentle soul, but one who can give you a sense of direction. You want someone to help you make decisions.

Your ideal mate has a spiritual or mystical side. Together you can explore the meaning of life. If not that, then at least you can enjoy going to the movies. You take pleasure from fantasy and make-believe. You are a natural-born clown. Someone you can laugh with will warm your heart.

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